Dating site message guide
And the reason for that was simple, too: at the age when everyone else was learning how to date, I was extremely closeted.I came out at the very end of college, and I struggled. I have always been an extroverted introvert, a contradicting duality I often attribute to being a Gemini, which makes connecting with people difficult.
And the reason was simple: I was terrible at dating.
I guess one could say that the last couple of weeks of mine have been hectic when it comes to my dating life but it was worth it.
In the world of online dating, messaging is what bridges the gap between seeing someone’s profile and going out on a date with them.
In theory, it should be fairly simple; dude with the brightest plumage, women with the best child-bearing hips, 10 minutes of squishy noises and then a whole lot of controversy as to whether primates pairbond monogamously or polygamously. Well, if you want quality guys, you’re going to put the effort into the profile.
But because we had to go and evolve and develop complex brains and societies, we had to go and make it all complicated and shit; what used to be instinctual has become confusing, and we end up overanalyzing it…if a woman is interested in a guy, shouldn’t she be willing to make the first move – after all, it physical at first, or can there be an emotional connection as well? Your online dating profile is your verbal equivalent of a peacock’s lustrous plumage When you’re writing your profile, think about the sort of guy you’re looking for; while guys in general are wider ranging in the types they’re willing to date (or bang), there will be plenty who have a narrower focus. As I’ve advised guys before, if you want a type, you have to be able to show yourself as someone who that type would be attracted to; think if it as proving that you know how to speak their language.